Positive Affirmations & Positive Sayings

Because I am in control my fears are quelled.

Today I am in control of my emotions and my life and I need not worry about what tomorrow may bring because I am fully capable of anything thrown my way. This gives me confidence to try new things and experience new places. If I am in a situation that does not feel comfortable to me I can choose to leave because I am in control.

I have often felt afraid when I was uncertain about things around me and in my life. Not knowing what to expect would frighten me and I often missed out on things I would otherwise enjoy.

When I feel prepared for a situation, I do not feel afraid. Although my fears may not go away all together, I feel more secure when I know that I am in control.

I may not be able to control other people in my life, but I am always in control of myself. I am in control of whom I choose to be with, where I choose to go and when I choose to return.

I will no longer miss out on experiences due to uncertainty or fear because I know that I am in control of myself and my immediate environment. I am in control of all my emotions and no one can make me feel uncomfortable without my permission. I am no longer controlled by fear. Knowing that I am in control allows me to experience my life in a confident manner.

If I begin to feel uncertain or afraid today, I will take a deep breath and tell myself that I am in control and I can tame my fears. No one can make me feel fear unless I allow it. And no one else can ease my fears but me because I am in control.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What makes me feel the most fearful?
2. What can I do to acknowledge my control in a situation that causes me fear?
3. How am I in control of my life today?

The only person I can control is me. It's not my responsibility to ensure that my partner, children, siblings, co-workers, or neighbors make the right decisions.

Trying to control another person's actions is about as effective as staring at a silkworm and thinking that I can make it turn into a butterfly by wishing hard enough. It simply doesn't happen like that. The silkworm will only change when it's ready, and there is nothing I can do to rush that process.

Accepting this fact allows me to stop wasting my precious energy on situations that are outside of my control. I have only a limited amount of energy, and I should use it to improve the one person I can control: myself.

Stepping back from all attempts to control other people does not mean that I no longer care about what happens them. I do care! But their decisions are theirs alone, and I must allow them their choices, as I wish to be granted mine.

Respecting others' choices does not mean I have to be a victim when they choose poorly. The fact that I am in control of myself means that I have the freedom to remove myself from situations that are hurtful to me. I cannot change others, but I can change myself and the circumstances I am in, if and when I need to.

Caring for myself involves acknowledging that the only person who truly controls my life is me and that the only life I can truly control is my own.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. Who am I trying to control?
2. What steps do I need to take to let go of my attempts to control this person?
3. In what ways have I given up control of my own life?

I do not dwell on my mistakes. I learn from them.

Making mistakes reminds me that I am alive. Making mistakes is the first sign of life. It's how we learn and grow.

I look at the children around me, at the way they skin their knees nearly every day, it seems, as they try, again and again, to find their center of balance, as they learn to push up off the ground, to crawl, to stand, to walk, to run. Not a single child succeeds in this process without falling. Not one. I am no longer learning to walk, but the truth remains the same: life involves making mistakes. Life involves falling. It's the only way to learn.

Making mistakes reminds me that I am taking the risks I need to take in order to learn and to grow. I could hole up in a cave on the mountainside (or in my living room, drapes closed, television on) and perhaps I wouldn't make any mistakes for a while. Even if I did, no one would see them. But I also wouldn't be taking any risks. I wouldn't be growing. I would be stagnating.

Like a plant that requires sunlight, I require the push and pull of social interaction. I cannot keep myself safely curtained off from those who might witness my mistakes and still expect myself to grow. I need to get out there. And if I stumble, I will take that as proof that I am trying, that I am truly alive.

Self-Reflection Questions:

1. What mistakes have I made recently?
2. What can I learn from these mistakes?
3. How can I help others learn to accept their own mistakes?