A wedding night consists of dozens of events that all must come together at the right times.  That includes, sometimes, hundreds of people doing their jobs just right.  The wedding cake alone might require the baker, a delivery person, the caterer (to cut the cake), and a groom who promised not to smash it into your make-up.  And if any single one of the people involved in your wedding screw up, the biggest night of your life is ruined.  Right?

It’s no wonder you’re experiencing wedding stress.  Most girls start dreaming of their wedding night when they are just twelve years old.  Now that it’s about to happen, your bound to experience some serious stress.  I’m hoping these wedding stress tips will calm your nerves, give you a game plan to help reduce wedding stress, and allow you to actually enjoy the night you’ve been dreaming of.

How You Feel

Cold Feet?  A little under the weather?  Perhaps stomach cramps?  It’s okay… there’s nothing unnatural about feeling nervous on your wedding night.  Realizing this is one step towards reducing wedding stress.  Understand that you’ll never have a stress free wedding.  What we’re working for is stress management, not stress elimination.

How You Look

Worried about whether your hair will come out right, how the dress will fit, or if one of your bridesmaids will outshine you?  Hey, relax.  Someone’s about to commit to spending the rest of his life with you… he must have the hots for you already, and you have very little to worry about.  Reducing wedding stress starts with realizing that it’s okay to be you.  You’re not there to please your family, his family, or even him.  You’re there because you love someone and are ready to commit yourself to him.  If that doesn’t reduce your wedding stress any (yeah, I didn’t think it would either) try this wedding stress tip:

Make a pact with your bridesmaids.  If your hair doesn’t turn out right, they have to mess up their own.  If your dress gets a stain, they all stain theirs.  If they’re real friends, they’ll be happy to help this way.  If for no other reason, they’ll make the promise just to get you to stop stressing out.

Details, Details, Details

Most people will admit that the best things in life are never planned.  As a matter of fact, it seems like the more we plan things, the less often they work out the way we wanted.  Obviously, you have to plan a wedding.  But sweating over the small things will not help in reducing wedding stress.  The best wedding stress tip I can give you is to allow friends and family to take care of the little things, and you focus more on synchronizing it.  Unless your maid of honor is taking care of that.  Then just sit back and enjoy the day.

Your Health

The most powerful weapon you have in reducing wedding stress is your health.  Eat well… especially the week of your wedding.  Don’t fool yourself into thinking that some last minute starvation is going to make that wedding dress any prettier.  It’s just going to make you miserable.  Eat a good breakfast, a decent lunch, and find something healthy to eat a few hours before the wedding (even though you paid for an expensive catering job, the bride and groom often don’t get a chance to sit down for their portions).

You should also start the morning off with some exercises.  Stretch, walk, jog, or ‘Dance to the Oldies’… whatever gets your heart pumping.  It’s one of the best things you can do to reduce wedding stress later during the day.

Your Love

Finally, ask your fiancé for encouragement and reassurance.  Men aren’t always the quickest animals on this planet.  You might have to actually come out and tell your man that you are suffering and that you need some help, support, or compliments to get you through.  It’s your love for each other that brought you to this day.  Your love for each other can help reduce wedding stress as well.

Reducing wedding stress isn’t going to be easy.  Ask some experienced friends and family for wedding stress tips.  They’ll be thrilled that you’re coming to them for advice, and they’ll gladly give you their time.  If you feel funny about expressing your fears to someone you know, try a session with a professional stress coach in the lead-up to your wedding.  A stress coach can and motivate you and plan a stress-managed day.  That way you can spend more time having fun and looking forward to your honeymoon.